Is this a question you find yourself asking on a regular basis? You might be surprised to know you are in really good company. So many struggle with this question and the sometimes-crippling belief that they aren’t good enough.
We are definitely bombarded in media outlets with perfectness. Even in our own social media, we are presented with the very best of others’ lives, leaving us feeling that not only are celebrities’ lives perfect, but so are those of our family and friends!
We are often left comparing the perfect lives, bodies, careers, homes and families of others to the often-mundane days and difficult struggles we face in our own lives. How could a person not be left feeling like they aren’t good enough?
For others, it might be messages they believe they have been receiving for a very long time. Parents sometimes send wrong messages trying to motivate their children. Peers send these messages trying to feel better about themselves and shaming others. Difficult endings to friend and romantic relationships can leave many questioning their value and self-worth.
But let’s get real! Perfection is impossible! But if that is our measuring stick, then we will forever feel not good enough. We have to let go of that first! And we can start by recognizing that no one is perfect, nor are we supposed to be. What we see on television, movie, computer and phone screens is a perfectly selected, often perfected, edited and screened version of what someone wants to present. Every one of us are given strength and gifts as well as struggles and difficulties, this is what makes us unique and special.
By believing that we always have to be more, have more, do more and be more we paralyze ourselves with the feeling of unworthiness. This robs us of the JOY that surrounds us as we pursue the unobtainable “more”. You might need help in letting go of your negative beliefs and criticism, but think of what all it could bring to your life!
It’s a simple truth to be good enough: be good, be kind, be caring, compassionate, loving and giving. That’s it! If you are trying, then you are good enough. We must learn to apply that same criteria to ourselves and let go of the perfection measuring stick. If we can do that then we let go of all the not enough, and embrace all the JOY that is!