We have all been there… you and your partner are trying to reach and understand each other, but no matter what you say, it’s like you keep missing each other. Maybe an argument evolves, maybe you each retreat into your own corners and give each other the silent treatment, or maybe it feels like an endless cycle […]
Recovering from the Disney Princess-Pipeline Effect: Challenging Unhealthy Romanticized Narratives of Love
As a couple’s and family therapist who works with individuals, adults, and couples on their relationships with themselves and others, love is a word that comes up a lot. I have a lot of training and experience with supporting clients in re-discovering love for themselves and others, and love is still a tricky concept to […]
Finding Your North Star of Habit Change: Creating Habits That Serve Us
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle Habits can be both powerful and insidious in the sense that once they are part of our routine, they can be automatic, and also difficult to change. In a sense, when I as a therapist meet with folks, […]
Why We Do What We Do: Trauma and Stress Responses – The Four F’s
When getting to know clients, I often explore with them the ways in which they respond when they are overwhelmed, stressed, or in relation to traumatic incidents. Some helpful terms to think of these in can be survival mode or reflexes and habits, also more commonly known as the 4 F’s – Fight, Flight, Freeze, […]